Here’s something I ask myself when I feel stuck, lost, or unfocused:
If I was to give a simple answer to why “this,” whatever it is, isn’t working for me - what would that answer be?
Because when I ask myself what the problem is, over and over again, the answer usually involves “a lot of little things.” And look, even though there are many little things involved, they’re just noise, they’re not the real problem.
The actual problem is usually because of one thing, and sometimes it’s so obvious that it just hides in plain sight.
It’s the 80/20 principle restated.
A principle we all know but rarely ever explore beyond the surface. We say, “oh yeah, that sounds about right” and never revisit the concept or apply it to what matters.
Time and Happiness - it hits me here the most.
80% of my happiness comes from 20% of my time and energy - sadness is the same.
A few years ago, I had a horrible year full of anger and frustration. I could say it was many things, but really, 80% of my anger and frustration was because I was living with someone I wasn’t compatible with, but it doesn’t stop there.
80% of the fulfillment I got out of traveling the world was not the delicious food, beautiful sites, or the culture - it was experiencing new things with interesting people.
80% of the enjoyment I get from my hobbies comes from 20% of my activities.
You get the picture.
It’s usually not “complicated,” and the little collections of small things are probably not the main problem or the real solution.
It’s usually one thing that we need to get right before everything else falls in line.
Finding the one big thing.
We all know how it feels to be in the eye of the tornado. You can’t be in something and see the bigger picture. So we need to step out, but analogies aside, how do you do that in practice?
So for me, this is what’s worked. I started a weekly reflections page. It’s not the same as a daily journal or a page on gratitude, and look, you could do this every day, but I found that doing it every week helps me more.
I write about:
How I felt that that week.
What work I completed, what work I didn’t.
The wins and the losses and what I was prioritizing.
What goals and focuses I have for the following week, and why I have those goals.
I then look at my problems and losses for the week and ask myself that very same question at the top of this email.
If I was to give a simple answer to why this isn’t working for me - what would that answer be?
And I find that stepping out of my week, spending time for reflections independent of everything, gives me that escape from the tornado to examine it from the outside.
My issue last week was that I wasn’t producing enough content at the quality I wanted.
The answer to that problem, as per last Friday’s reflection, was, “I’m producing haphazardly. I don’t have a singular goal or focus.”
And now that I know, I’m one step closer to fixing it. Ask yourself this: What’s the simple answer to your issue?
What’s the 20% that’s at the core of your issue?
What’s the 20% that’s giving you the most benefit?
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🎥 A concept you should know about if you’re trying to become a solopreneur.
🎙️ I interviewed my friend, who has ADHD - this is how he gets work done.
👩💻 A list of books for anyone looking to learn Node.js.
📚 For the writers, some short wisdom from the guy who wrote Doctor Strange.
🧵 A Reddit thread I posted over the week with my Top 45 productivity principles.
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